Making Your Emails Work...
Okay, so we have already established that it is up to you to make the first move when you find a profile for someone that you think might be a good match. And, incidentally, that rule applies whether you are girl or boy, young or old.
If you want it to happen, then you must make it happen! After you have found a few folks that you think sound interesting, then you will want to email them. You could send them a chat message, but email is definitely recommended for at least the first few communications, for reasons mentioned earlier in 'No- Drama Online Dating'. Okay, so you are going to use email to make that crucial first move. So, here are a few simple email rules that you should follow.
Number one is, please, take time to read what you have written - remember that you are looking for a great first impression here, and a mail full of mistakes and spelling errors tends to indicate that you did not take enough care. That suggests that perhaps the mail is not so important. Is that the impression that you want to create? Also, try to follow these guidelines wherever and whenever possible too:
make sure that you confirm your name and where you found their profile. try to be upbeat and interesting, not dull and boring. a short note is fine, but something like "I saw your profile, email me" is definitely not! This will not work. Try to introduce yourself and provide some informative and interesting background details about you, without it being too much.
Provide them with enough information about you to enable them to start building a bit more of an idea of who you are. You are planning to make something of this, so try to create a mail that will give them a reason not to forget you!
Make sure that there is something to think about, and don't forget the old 'mystery' angle! Then, move on to making some interesting and observant comments about their profile. Try to look for the points that drew you to the profile in the first place, the common interests, and comment or make some observations about why this made you get in touch.
This actually shows that you really were interested enough to actually read what they wrote! Endeavor to discover the common connection between their profile and your interests.
When you do that, you are taking the first steps towards forming a bond between you that might grow into something much more positive and long lasting. It helps to build a foundation for future communications and conversation, which you need if you are ever to get any kind of positive response from them. Finally, include a few questions to try to get the dialogue and two-way communication going. Use whatever you can find in their profile that shows what they are interested in, and ask questions about that subject matter.
People are pretty much always willing to answer questions about the things that truly interest them. Failing that, you can ask them general questions about daily life or their pets, for example, but try not to allow the questions to come over as bland and boring! By asking questions that actually 'touch a nerve', you will begin to create and develop a relationship with them, albeit at a very basic level at this early stage.
Asking questions should elicit responses, and hopefully, things can begin to roll along nicely from there. Think of it this way. That first email is always going to be the hardest one to write, and after that, it is always going to get easier. So, no matter how hard or difficult it might seem, just grit your teeth, and get it done!
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